My oldest son and my daughter were playing in a junior football and cheerleader league. The practiced 3 evenings a week and played games on Saturdays. The first game was on August 21st. I was in the middle of my pancreatitis and it being central Arkansas, the temperatures were unbearable. The plan for the day was I take all 4 kids to the games and Mr. P would join after he worked a couple of hours. Our kids were in different age groups and each cheered or played in at least 2 games each that day.
Around 1 PM my husband finally calls and says he has to work late and will not make the games. I am STUCK ALONE with 4 kids in 100+ degree heat and I am still pretty ill at this point. I KNEW something was off that day. It was Saturday and work that day in minimum. I found out the next Thursday just what exactly happened that day.
Skip ahead to Wednesday and we are all heading to eat out and make a store run. Mr. P casually mentions he needs to pick up a present for Mrs. Cheats-Alot's 2 year old son. I am furious, but try to not explode because we are in the truck with all 4 of our kids. I am fuming though, Mr. P has NEVER picked out a present for any of our children. NEVER. He knows I am P'd off so he says he will wait until the next day. The next day he spends more for her son than we spend on our OWN children for their birthdays.
Mr. P actually for once takes the older kids to football the next day and I go snooping. I.have.had.it. I find what I am looking for in a notebook he ALWAYS carries, but for some reason had left it at home that night. It was notes about Mrs. Cheats-Alot. Apparently they had a fight on the Saturday of the football game and he was writing out what he was going to say to her. He didn't show up for football because they were supposed to meet at one of "their places", a coffee shop near their office. She apparently waffled back and forth about meeting him and ultimately couldn't get away from her husband and kids. Funny how inconvenient kids and spouses can be to an affair. :) The broken date and fight was also why he forgot about my MRI appointment on Monday. He was too distraught over her....screw his sick, FAITHFUL wife. There were also entries about they were looking at a house they wanted to buy together, and how she was the love of his life.
I was sick and LIVID when he came home from practice with the kids. I handed him the children and walked out the door. I went for a walk on the nature trail behind our house. I had to clear my head before I spoke to him or I would have harmed him. I was that hurt, and angry. I was devastated. I confronted him when the kids went to bed. He tried to play it off. He tried the "just good friends" card. I told him I was not stupid. Then he tried to blame shift by saying I was unreasonable when I was angry. I knew there was A LOT more to the story, but he promised to break all contact and work on our marriage. I should have know there would be more, much more to come. :(
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