Well, to get a complete picture of this affair saga you need to meet all of the characters....
Mrs. Personality
At the time of the affair I was a 33 year old stay at home Mom. I had given up my job as a benefit manager after 15+ years with the same company. The last 3 years with the company, I literally worked to keep our family afloat as my husband fluttered around trying to find the occupation that made him happy. One of the owners of the company I was with was terribly unfair to me and treated me like crap, but I just kept on going because my kids and my family's well being came first. Thankfully most of the people I worked with and the other owner treated me well. I was really struggling to gain my footing in a very new situation. I had a very young baby and a toddler at home and 2 older kids in elementary and middle school. I had always worked so the situation was very new to me. I was also struggling with hormonal balance issues. My OB was working to get me evened out after a terrible bout of PPD. Our marriage had been going through waves of struggle followed by good times for years. I had always felt my husband never really felt my feelings were of much importance. After many years of being with a spouse who was never wrong and never accepted any blame of any marital problems, I had become a pretty angry, depressed person.
Mr. Personality
At the time of the affair he was working at a new company, back in our home state after a year working off shore. It should have been a great new beginning, instead it was the beginning of the worst thing that ever happened to our marriage. Mr. P is the youngest of 8 children and his siblings have always treated him as the special baby who could do no wrong. It did not matter that he was over 40 he had it ingrained in his personality that anything that he did was above reproach. I have battled this throughout my whole marriage. It had become so much a part of life that I had pretty much programmed myself to ignore it. He fought dirty. Anytime we had discussion he turned it from something to grow from to something to hurt me as much as possible. It is always said that women always remember all the slights in a relationship, well in our case he was the one who brought up everything that had EVER upset him about me every time we had an argument. I cannot tell you how many times I would walk away with the thought of "what the heck just happened?" During the affair he took his anger towards me to a frightening level. The hate that I could see in his eyes when he spoke to me actually frightened me. The lowest part of our marriage was when he was weeping one night while he was screwing around with his slut and said to me "do you know how long it has been since I've been happy?" We had been discussing what we could do to help our marriage and he wanted me to know he placed the blame squarely on my shoulders that he wasn't happy. He had turned a blind eye to his many ( so many I can't even begin to list them) blessings that all he could see was this imaginary happiness the affair would bring.
The slut
I can't say that I really know anything about this woman. I thought I knew her to a certain extent before the affair, but the affair proved I knew nothing about her. I couldn't begin to tell you what would turn her into the "other woman." I do know that she was in her late 20's with a husband and 2 children. I just know that she had to be damaged somehow, otherwise how do you have an affair?
